Have you ever blown up at your queer kid because you don’t understand and you can’t figure out why they are being like this?
I get it. You have spent the whole time they’ve been alive being the hero, coach, provider and protector. You’ve fed and clothed them, sacrificed so much for them. And now they seem to be choosing this and disrespecting everything you’ve done for them. How is it that you’ve become the villain in this story, dad?
There is actually a lot of really great news. First is that I think I can help.
Most dads have to try everything else before they are willing to talk to me. I get it. Asking for help is not really in your DNA; you have to be desperate. You will wait until you and your whole family are in so much pain that you are not sure it is even possible to repair. And, even then, you will think I’m a bad idea and a waste of your time and family’s money.
You see, you’re not the first dad with a queer kid. Queer people are literally everywhere, even when you don’t know they are there. It’s okay, we’re nice people. We’ve always been here and we always will be. Living in denial isn’t actually a great solution to happily sharing the planet.
What I’m offering is to hold a space for you, parents or other loved ones, to express yourselves where it won’t harm your child and to get some answers to those things you don’t know or understand.
